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9.3 How to deal with conflict

There are many ways an individual can deal with conflict in any situation. Effective conflict management requires interpersonal and communication competence and draws on many of the concepts thus far covered in the course such as active listening, empathy, assertiveness and clear communication skills. One of the classic models of conflict management is the Dual Concerns Model (similar to the Kilmann & Thomas model in Figure 7.1, page 159 of the textbook). This model can also be translated into a pictorial model of conflict styles (see below).

Conflict styles

The terms in the two models may be different, but they illustrate the same styles where:

Activity 9b

  1. To determine your conflict style, complete the conflict management style questionnaire in Reading 9.1. Do you agree with the result? Is conflict style contextual?
  2. Read through Reading 9.2. The information on pages 10 and 11 will help you to translate your style from the conflict management style questionnaire.

The most productive style of conflict management is the problem solving or collaborative style of conflict management. However, some situations may require a different approach. See Figure 1.4, page 13 in Reading 9.2 for more information on the situational nature of conflict management. Attempts to resolve conflict constructively to reach productive outcomes have the potential to provide (Elder 1994):

To deal with conflict productively we must try to recognise and then deal with the conflict as early as possible. This may reduce the level of conflict and increase the possibility of an efficient and constructive solution. The various levels of conflict are outlined in Figure 7.3 of the textbook. This diagram conveys the extremes between a very low level of discomfort to a crisis situation if the conflict is allowed to persist. However, not all conflict should be openly confronted immediately. There are occasions when conflict avoidance, at least in the short term, is more appropriate. For example, if you are extremely upset it is better to calm down before you try to resolve the conflict or if you do not have all the facts it is better to gather those prior to conflict resolution. See the six points to consider when deciding to confront a conflict on page 161 of the textbook.

Activity 9c

  1. Consider the unproductive conflict strategies proposed by DeVito (1992) as given on pages 166-167 of the textbook.
  2. Do you engage in any of these unproductive strategies? How can you overcome them?

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